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I have been blessed with a really good husband. I’m amazed sometimes that we have been able to make our marriage work through this time apart. There are a few things that really keep our marriage together. It may sound cliche, but it’s the truth.

First and foremost is our faith. Islam and faith in Allah swt are the foundation for our marriage.

The second thing is about arguing. We’re married, we do argue, alhamdulilah it’s not often. The most important thing is to not let our arguments go on to the next day. The whole “don’t go to sleep angry” thing. Except with us it’s even more important not to leave our arguments for the next day. We aren’t in the same place, we aren’t confronted with each other face to face during our angry time. My husband and I usually leave the computer upset, but one of us will call the other within a few hours. It’s too miserable to feel like that when you’re thousands of miles apart.

I remember when my husband and I were first married and we had an argument that we went to sleep on. I kissed him good bye before I left for work like nothing had happened. Later he called me at work and asked how I could act like nothing happened. I said I was still upset, but I don’t want to regret not saying good bye, in case anything were to happen.

The other thing that has been really important in our marriage is communication. That’s all we’ve done for most of the past year, communicate. We talk nearly every day, we know most of what is going on with each other. We talk about stuff that’s important and not important. We’ve learned so much about each other from being communicative. I remember before my husband went back to Egypt we didn’t get a chance to talk one day because of our work schedules. The next day my husband said he just wanted to sit with his wife and talk for a little bit, because he missed it the day before.

I know it seems cliche, but really the things that you hear about making a marriage work, really do make it stronger. I only pray that everyone else can find a good partner to have a strong relationship with, inshaAllah.


55 days until Egypt.

Our status has changed on the USCIS page.

Things just seem to be looking up.


I hate things that induce any extra anxiety.  When I travel I like to know exactly what’s going on and what I’m supposed to do.  I don’t deal well with changes to my plans.  Granted I am set to leave on May 22nd to go to Egypt again.  I still didn’t like the change to my flight that was laid on me yesterday.  They changed my ticket to be 6 hours earlier, and I would find it impossible to leave work, come home get ready to go, make it to the airport, through security, and on my flight in 1 hour and 5 minutes.  That would also be giving up the shower I would need after working 8 hours and before traveling overseas on a plane.  So now I’m stuck with a so-so flight but I have to commute between the 2 airports in NYC with all my luggage.  That is not something I am looking forward to at all.  It gives me anxiety.

I don’t leave for another 78 days and it’s already causing anxiety……  ugh.